Eliminate negative phrases--Do not start a conversation with, "I know this may not work out" or "this is not the right time etc etc", this leaves the other person with a negative opening. Instead say I can do it this way, and I will be able to do it.

Remove imaginary self limiting boundaries--Nothing ventured nothing gained. Do not go around thinking this is not meant for me or I cannot do it. Low expectations lead to lower gains. Take a breath and reconsider what is it that you cannot master or learn the skills to do ? Take your courage in your hands and take that lead.

Avoid Negative thinking-- If you perceive yourself as lazy, fat, ugly and undeserving believe me the others will do you the favour of believing you. Your own self image sticks, so project a positive attitude and image.

learn to deal with disappointments: It is not the end of the world, it maybe a blessing in disguise or a push towards new thinking. Typically a person goes through three stages when faced with disappointment. Denial or distortion of the problem, resentment towards the perceived wrong done by someone and then depression and acceptance of yourself as maybe I deserved it. Instead, face the problem head-on, every cloud has a silver lining. Maybe it was time to move on and the work atmosphere was not conducive. Experience gained can lead to a better job and atmosphere.

Observance of people with the right attitude: Imitate people who are self assured and confident. Copy their posture, gestures, eye contact, how they carry themselves. Such people are not afraid of challenges and meet situations head-on. They are confident of their skills and and ability to perform. They do not seek acceptance and approval but are performance oriented.

Be persistent: I n other words 'press on' and don't give up. There is not substitute for grit and determination
They mistake delegation for giving up responsibility and authority.
Be your own best friend: Think positive, build your self esteem by visualising yourself in positive situations. Positive imagery of your self and building a vision of a confident you who constantly prods, performs and pushes is what we are looking for.

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There is little doubt that poor listening habits have stymied many managerial careers. According to several estimates, about 45% of a manager’s typical day is spent listening. Some managers believe they earn up to 60% of their salaries by listening.

The following guidelines are useful in improving listening awareness and efficiency:

Increase your listening skills. Interrupting and finishing a speaker’s sentences often damage communication. Make sure the speaker has finished before you speak Your actions should indicate your genuine interest. Constantly evaluate your own understanding of the communication. The most effective way to break the interrupting habit is to apologize every time you interrupt. After a few apologies, you’ll think twice before jumping in while a person is speaking.

Make Time. The speaker is apt to feel rushed if you indicate your listening time is limited. Many people take time to format and crystalise their ideas. You're never too busy to listen and do not fiddle and attempt o do other tasks. It disturbs the ther person and your concentration suffers too. Reassure and take time to nod and how an interest and reaffirm or question.

Adapt your thought speed. You can think three to four times faster than a person can talk, which is a major reason for poor concentration. The mind wanders off. The best way is to constantly sum up what's being said and to analyse.

Don’t overreact to the delivery. Listen to what is said instead of how it is said. The accent, speech pattern does not matter, it is the content. Ask yourself: “What is he or she saying that I need to know?”

Listen between the lines. It is called reading between the lines. Why is it being said, the motives, attitudes, tones, expressions everything comes into it. Relying on words alone is eating without savouring the taste.

Don’t become distracted. Poor listeners are distracted by sounds, objects and people, such as a telephone ringing or a person passing in the hallway. Good listeners position themselves to avoid distractions or concentrate harder on what the speaker is saying.

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